Do I Want to Be a Mum?

Facing the Big Question.

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I Never Had That OMG I Need A Baby Moment..

I waited for it, expecting that one day I’d wake up desperate to be a mum, but it never came. I never went gooey over babies. I have always preferred animals to children. And for the longest time, I thought that meant I wasn’t meant to be a mum. That I’d know if I was. That it should be obvious.

Turns out, it’s not obvious for everyone. And that’s okay.

I realised that my fear wasn’t about whether I wanted kids—it was about not seeing motherhood done in a way that fit the life I wanted.

I started asking better questions. I stopped waiting for a sign and instead, I designed my own toolkit for figuring it out.

And that’s exactly what this guide is—the questions I was too afraid to ask myself, and the ones I needed to ask my partner to get real clarity.

This guide provides a safe space to explore your true feelings, supported by guiding questions that help you make a decision aligned with your authentic self.

“What word would you use to describe the difference between someone who has children and someone who doesn’t?”
— freedom
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This Guide Is for You If:

  • You’re unsure if you want kids—or if you want another child.

  • Your partner wants kids, but you don’t (or vice versa).

  • You’re afraid of regretting your decision—either way.

  • You don’t feel maternal, and you’re questioning what that means.

  • You’re struggling with fertility and don’t know what life looks like if kids aren’t an option.

  • You just want an honest, pressure-free space to figure this out on your own terms.

  • You’re navigating thinking about going from one to two or more.

💡 20 pages of deep, thought-provoking questions to help you explore what life looks like with and without children. This Guide Won’t Tell You What to Do… But It’ll Help You Decide.
💡 A 5-day challenge designed to help you reflect, visualize, and talk openly with your partner (or yourself!).

💡 No pressure, no judgment—just clarity. Print it out, write in your journal, or answer the questions on your phone.

What’s Inside?

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Table of Contents with 11 items listed, including topics like "Why This Feels So Big," "The Stories You’ve Been Told," "Breaking Down the Pros & Cons," and "The Myths & Truths About Regret."
Text discusses overcoming societal and cultural influences in life choices. It includes sections on identifying fears, reframing thoughts, considering different perspectives, and an exercise for rewriting narratives about motherhood or being child-free. The title is "02. The Stories You’ve Been Told."
Five Day Decision Challenge guide on making life decisions about parenthood, detailing steps for each day such as releasing pressure, challenging beliefs about having kids, creating vision boards, addressing regrets, evaluating needs, and considering the possibility of not having children.

Both Paths Are Beautiful. Let’s Find One That’s Yours.

This isn’t a guide to convince you to have kids or to stay child-free.

It’s pro-motherhood AND pro-child-free life.

Because here’s the truth: There’s a wonderful life waiting for you, no matter which path you choose. One does not make you better than the other. They are simply different, and both can be filled with deep love, purpose, and meaning.

“You will never know the life you didn’t choose. So choose with trust, excitement, and confidence in yourself.”

Ready to Find Your Answer?

📩 Get Instant Access to the Guide → Click here.
📆 Want a deeper dive? I’d love to guide you 1:1 through this process—let’s find the clarity you need here.

Whatever you choose, you are not alone in this. Take your time, trust yourself, and design the life that feels right for YOU. 💛

TESTIMONIALS:

  • I’ve spent years going back and forth on whether I wanted kids. I was so afraid of making the wrong decision and feeling regret. This guide helped me separate my real desires from external pressures. It wasn’t about being ‘pro-motherhood’ or ‘pro-child-free’—it was about being pro-ME. For the first time, I feel at peace with my decision, and I know that whatever I choose, I have the tools to make it work. Thank you, Carly, for creating something so powerful and judgment-free!

    Emily R

  • "I always assumed I’d have kids because that’s what you ‘do,’ but I never actually stopped to ask myself if it was what I wanted. This guide helped me untangle the expectations of society, my family, and my partner—and finally listen to my own voice. I worked through my fears, created my vision boards, and realized that my life can be meaningful and full, with or without children. I no longer feel guilt for choosing the life that truly excites me!

    Samantha L

  • I went into this thinking I was just going to answer one question: ‘Do I want kids?’ But what I got was so much more. Carly’s guide helped me see that this isn’t just about yes or no—it’s about how I want to live, what I value, and what kind of future I want to build. I did the 5-day challenge, had the hard conversations with my partner, and now I feel more aligned than ever. I made my choice without fear, without guilt, and with total trust in myself.

    Jessica M