I’ll admit it, I was sh*tting myself at the prospect of losing the body I’d worked so hard for. I had this crazy notion that my body would balloon overnight, I would struggle to find clothes to fit and would want to throw blankets over all the mirrors in my house. What a drama queen!
This may sound super vain but I really like myself right now. The first 14 weeks were a struggle between losing my abs and looking, to the outside world (or anyone who didn’t know I was pregnant), as though I had just enjoyed too many BBQs. I didn’t have a bump, more like a bloat and it was the kind of bloat that would appear around 4 pm. Next were the boobs, the part I actually love, they just won’t stop growing, are fuller than ever and now a full 2 cup sizes bigger. As a girl who never had much front boob, only side boob, I can tell you I’m having a lot of fun getting to know them, although poor husband, they’re just too sensitive to fondle right now.
- You don’t grow a bump overnight.
- There is no perfect size, shape or time for when your bump decides to pop.
- You might be bigger or smaller than people due at the same time as you.
- Morning sickness, evening sickness, all day sickness, no sickness, there’s no way of knowing.
- You will be a different shape and size from morning to night; food, hydration, stress, sleep, exercise, everything will have its own little input on the way your body behaves.
Loving yourself is no easy task and it is even harder when you’re aware that people are watching your body change with you. I’ve received countless messages saying I’m too big, too small, I’m going to kill my baby by exercising, I shouldn’t eat this or that. My motto: DO YOU. I started loving my body around 14 weeks, it was at the time that I could come out publicly and let others know, which enabled me to feel less pressured into having to hide something. I also found that once I had more of a bump I wanted to show it off. You go from wearing everything as baggy as possible to wanting to highlight the little human you are growing.
- Give yourself a little longer offline before you jump back on and feel pressured by other bodies, pregnant or not. The online world is amazing but if you haven’t built up your own little forcefield it can send you into a downward spiral. I always get up, have a little body wiggle, munch my breakfast and then have a little scroll.
- Have a wardrobe clear out, not throw out. Have a look at your wardrobe and pick out the items you feel you can comfortably wear right now and over the next couple of months, then think of little accessories or staples that could go with them to make you feel comfy. Elasticated skirts like this one are perfect on hot summer days when you know you’re going to expand as the day goes on.
- Unfollow and Follow; since falling pregnant the accounts I’ve chosen to follow have changed, I’ve unfollowed people who left me feeling self-conscious and moved onto more body positive people like @bodyposipanda and @emilyskyefit – these accounts encourage me to stay real and be honest with how I’m feeling. You will always have good and bad days, it’s normal.
- Take photos. Now I know this might be hard for some of you so just take the photo and leave it alone, don’t even look at it if you don’t want to but don’t delete it. One day soon you’ll look back with fresh eyes and a beautiful baby and think, damn, how gorgeous was my body.
- Focus on the positive changes and simply notice the negative. I’m now 5 months pregnant and let me tell you, the veins, tiger stripes and random hairs are not things I wanted but I also have the healthiest hair and nails I’ve ever had, my skin is glowing and I love feeling the little flutters of bump trying to say “hello” each day.
I’m so excited to share more pregnancy posts with you so please let me know in the comments what else you would like to read from me. I also have lots of daily updates on my Instagram and Pregnancy Series on my YouTube channel!