There’s one thing that nobody ever seems to talk about when it comes to a healthy lifestyle and that is failure, which is weird because it happens all the time. From binging and sabotaging your clean eating habits to pressing the big red stop button on the treadmill even though you’re not done. Failing is normal, you’re normal, but let’s talk about what to do if you’ve gotten to the point where you just can’t do it anymore.

‘Can’t lose weight, Can’t eat healthily, Can’t stop at one chocolate, Can’t stop at two…  Can’t go to the gym,  Don’t want to go to the gym, Too tired, Too hungry, Too overweight, It’s never going to happen..’ 

True, it’s never going to happen if you don’t stop the cycle. I’ve been there, more than a hundred times. Just because I’m a personal trainer and have clients, doesn’t mean that I haven’t sat on the fridge floor spooning the contents of a Nutella Jar into my mouth and then cried on the sofa that I’ll never have the body I long for. In fact in all honesty, since becoming a Personal Trainer this scenario has become even more common. Pressure, overwhelming pressure to be a completely clean, lean, superhuman, fitness machine has caused most of us to believe we just can’t do it.

One thing I’ve realised is that for most of us exercise is punishment for the food we have eaten, food is a punishment for the food we have eaten…it’s complete bullshit! Food is meant to be enjoyed, its meant to nourish, comfort and protect us, however somewhere in the mix, guilt has become its sole partner and it’s killing the relationship.

Exercise is meant to be something we do because we can, a way to show ourselves how incredible we are, a challenge to push us past our limits, to let us hear our heartbeat, to discover the world, climb, run, swim, jump, crawl into new adventures. Yet exercise is now defined by most as something that burns calories, that’s only completed or undertaken if it burns last nights pizza or tomorrow’s cocktails.

If I could go back and start all over again, remove all of the negative thoughts and feelings I have subjected my body and mind to, delete the torturous sessions purely designed to make me a size six and wipe any guilt attached to food, I would and I’d do it for you too! However, we all know that can’t happen but what we can do is start again, have a virtual clean up of the shit you’ve taught yourself and wipe the slate clean.

From this day onwards I want us all to vow to exercise because we love feeling alive and want to live longer, to eat meals when we are hungry and to stop when we feel full. Yes, we will have days when we feel like an elephant and ate more than we should have but that’s life, don’t go to the gym and destroy yourself for the sole purpose of justifying a doughnut, go to the gym because you want to be able to do a pull-up, to be able to run a 5k with your best friend or play with your child in the park. You CAN do it, you just need to change what you want to be able to do. No more exercise torture, no more food punishments, simply move because you want to and eat because you can.